Deal With It!

I know I’m not supposed to say this but I don’t give a yak’s ass what I’m not supposed to do. DAMN I have some gorgeous kids! Deal with it people. Being the wonderful person I am, I thought I’d … Continue reading

The “White” Wiz

I realized C-Thunda was not necessarily learning about race and all its social implications from me. She was learning them from the world at large. And it’s no telling what she’ll learn out there. If at all possible I’d like to spare The Babies from hearing psuedo compliments like, “You’re handsome for an Asian guy” or requests like “Can I touch your hair?” or even so-called self-empowering statements like “I’m a strong black woman”. I look forward to the day when The Babies will just be able to simply say, “I’m strong”. Or not have to say it at all, just know it. On the other hand, I don’t want them so desensitized to race that they succumb to the liberal idiocy of “I don’t see color.” While it is my hope we will continue to see the ever declining significance of race, I am not optimistic that it will be totally insignificant.

I agree with MetroDad in that we have to stand up to racist thoughts and actions. But we also have to check that our own children have a balanced view of race. They should know that race is important and not important at the same. It both exists (as a social construct) and doesn’t exist (as a scientific fact). It should be talked about openly when needed but should be the last thing on anyone’s mind. […] Continue reading

Love Jones, Lions and Loyalty

The other day I told you I would be real-er and honest-er. I want those who come to this site to have a good idea of who I am. In attempting to be more open-book, I imagine in some instances I will be toeing the line of making a fool out of myself. But everybody plays the fool sometimes. There is no exception to this rule. (Hmm, that sounds familiar.)

I am not saying I want you to know me so well that we have to be BFFs or anything. But I think when you read you should offered the context of me. Of course you will not get it all in one sitting. I can’t go that deep. I can you give you a little something. In terms of subject matter, there are three places I can start. Things I’d really rather not tell but would rather it be me than someone else, things you should know about me and things I’d like you know about me. So I put together this quick, preliminary list.

I absolutely, positively and wholeheartedly love these three ladies – My Babies and My Love Jones – with all my heart and soul.

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I am not foolhardy enough to think my relationship with each of them will always be happy-go-lucky. I know plenty of grown women who are estranged from their fathers for one reason or another. I hope The Babies and I are spared this fate. And JEM and I have been through it once or thrice. My apologies to her and you for not introducing her sooner. [And for doing other stupid stuff. JEM, I’m sorry.]

I won’t always understand them and they will not always understand me. They will not always like me. I hope they will each forgive my past, present and future f’ups and foibles. One thing is for certain, I’m going to work my rear end off to always let them know I love them and would do anything for each of them no matter if we’re together or apart or wherever else our lives lead each of us.

I smoked marijuana when I was 17 years old and never touched it again. I didn’t get what the big deal was. I have never done any other illegal drugs, I don’t smoke and I rarely drink alcohol. I have to admit though I think smoking and drinking are kinda cool looking. I defy anyone to tell me Humphrey Bogart wasn’t smooth as silk in every movie he ever did. He was chain-smoking and binge-drinking in every one of those movies. Legend has it he was smoking and drinking like it was going out of style in his personal life too. Apparently, it’s what contributed to his death. He was probably smooth as silk in the coffin too. Yeah, I think I’ll continue to stay away from the drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. Continue reading