The Rewards of Fatherhood, Fitness and Frugality

You exist in the subconscious without opposition. It’s but a quick trip to the tongue, where you roll off with ease. And with no real impediment, you penetrate the minds of those within earshot. But the utterance of you is not even necessary. You seep from the pores of those who let you live in them. You hang in the air like a foul stench. A simple waving of the hand in front of our nose doesn’t always rid you. You are resilient. You are very convincing. So much “evidence” proves you right. And before any of us know it, we are a slave to you.

To jump, to run, to improve, to love, to live, to earn, to forgive, to forget, to change. You will convince us none of this is within our grasp. To be intelligent, to recover, to heal, to be strong, to let ourselves cry, to take risk, to be happy, to be extraordinary. You will keep us from a life fulfilled if we allow you. [Read more →]

The gift giving season is upon us and if you’re like me this time of year gives you as much anxiety as it does joy. For me at least, there is some guilt associated with taking gifts from my loved ones when all I really want is to spend some QT with them. For me, I’d rather have their time than some token. I feel like their time is worth so much more. Then there’s the other side of the coin. Finding that perfect gift for those I love so dearly. The process can be an extremely stressful situation. Most of that stress, at least for me, is wrapped up in notion that whatever gift I give, it can never represent what I truly feel for the receiver. But I cannot help it. I want the receiver to feel I care deeply and if I could I would wrap that in a pretty box and put a bow on it.

There’s a simple solution to all this holiday stress. Just tell me what you want! Kids have no problem writing or telling their wish list. So why can’t we adults do the same? And don’t say, “Oh, you don’t have to get me anything” or “Whatever you get is fine”. Can you spell bull-ish? Remember the Hide-Your- House-Key-In-A-Rock I got for you or the Never Ending Candle Bowl? You hated those gifts. So just tell me what you want and it will make both our lives simpler. I know there’s only a few days left ’til the big day, but there’s still time.

Even though I stress out about getting my peeps gifts, I don’t stress about what I will get. I could not possibly care less. If I see everyone around me smiling and happy and stuffed from sweet potato pie, then I’m happy. I get things you can’t put a value on, every day. (Sometimes I forget but I eventually remember. Thanks fam.) So when I say, “You don’t have to get me anything” or “Whatever you get me is fine”, I really truly mean it. You’ve already given me so much. Like many of the single dads I talk to, we have an appreciation for the little things and just want those things to remain intact. Being with our family is the perfect gift.

But… (did you see it coming?)

We single dads are a caring lot and know you might be stressing out about getting us a gift, despite our most convincing arguments we have all we want. So, I’ve decided to put together a short list of items that ANY single dad would want. Rest assured, most of us would be more than happy to get one just of these items and not necessarily on the big day. So feel free, family and friends, to pool your resources and buy his gift after the big day when everything is properly priced at deep discounts. The single dad in your life will feel less guilty accepting his gift. To the list:

1. Olympic weightlifting shoes or…

source: Rogue Fitness

There is no way any self-respecting father wouldn’t appreciate the proper footwear designed to assist him in lifting heavy items. Sure, he can get by doing that stuff barefoot or in his old sneaks from college, but I’m sure he would appreciate the hard soled support Olympic weightlifting shoes provide. And given is low-key nature, he isn’t too particular about which kind you get him, he’d be appreciative in any circumstance but man those Nike Romaleos look mighty fine. [Read more →]

Just because it’s funny.

Dad Life from Church on the Move on Vimeo.

Post-WOD Position

I have not been able to get the box lately. Lately encompasses since The Games this past July. Life (life and life) outside of CrossFit demanded and still demands my attention. The guilt of being away from the gym is great albeit highly irrational. I am not paid to CrossFit. Nor does CrossFit bring me love and affection. It doesn’t feed me or take me out to the movies or rub my earlobs to relax me after a trying day.

In fact, CrossFit many times treats me bad. It makes my lungs cry. It fills me with self-doubt and self-loathing about my physical abilities. It takes my money. It makes my shoulder, and my ankle and my neck hurt. And sometimes it’s WODs just downright hurt my feelings. But nonetheless, I feel like I have neglected CrossFit. Irrational.

But instead of dwelling on my clearly misguided guilt about being away from it, I’ve decided to call my sabatical my CrossFit off-season. [Read more →]

Since I started CrossFit about a year ago, I’ve resisted talking about it much here. In fact, I’ve resisted talking about a lot of things here that did not at least in some small way have something to do with fatherhood or raising my girls. You may disagree. But I’ve decided I don’t want to limit myself. CrossFit in particular is simply too much a part of my life for me not to share some of that enthusiasm here. So I’ll be doing that from now on along with sharing other, non-parenting, things. Whatever I want.

As a start, I competed in the Hybrid Summer Challenge this past weekend. It was awesome. I was the oldest male competitor and the lightest one in my weight class. I went in with low expectations. Mostly because of my bum shoulder. But I surprised myself. I did much better in the initial, shoulder intensive, event than I thought I would. I’m upset I didn’t go in with a “I can win this thing” attitude. That won’t happen again. I’m really looking forward to the next local competition.

Carrying 480# @ Hybrid Summer Challenge

WOD: 21-18-15-12-9-6-3, strict pullups, hspu

Daddy move: Talked to Thing-One about the mailman.

Money maker: Secured a new domain name.

I’m a football fan. Not necessarily for any particular team. I just love the game. But this is the first year in a while that I’ve been excited by one team in particular. Perhaps it’s because they are the hometown New York Jets. They’ll be playing in a new stadium this year AND they have a great team. The success of the team will be highly dependent upon the play of the defense which shows a lot of potential. They have two cornerbacks that should be able to handle any receivers in the league without much trouble.

But one of these guys, Antonio Cromartie, has some off the field issues in the form of eight children with six different women and the child support that comes with such a situation. Antonio, good luck with the season BUT PLEASE keep it in your pants and please don’t follow Antonio’s lead.

Sorry about the sound. Please turn your volume up.